Planning Your Wedding to Reflect You as a Couple
In days like these, we can all get a little over whelmed when having to plan your own wedding. It seems like a massive task when you sit down to look at all of the elements you need to bring together, things like; the cake, the flowers, the dress, the button holes, the table settings, the table plan, bridesmaids outfits, the favours and making sure the confetti is bio degradable to name a few. Most people have never even really thought about their wedding having a schedule or a running order, let alone where to start to when planning the perfect day.
If you have dreamed of a big traditional wedding in a stately home, a laid back tepee wedding in your garden, or a registry office ceremony with a drink at the pub and are worried that one is better than the other; I will let you into the big secret - weddings can be what you make them. There is no right way to plan a wedding. No two people are alike, so why should your weddings be? The overall outline of a wedding is for two people to commit their lives to one another and everything else in-between is unique to you. Whatever you choose to do, it should be because it was your choice and because you totally love it, and not because someone said that you had to.
I have compiled a few photographs to show how some of my couples have made their day to reflect their personalities and ultimately them as a couple.
Cheryl and Stuart took three days off and rented a huge stately home for their friends and family to spend their wedding with them. It was completely fantastic and what they valued most was spending time with the people they loved, and in fact the wedding was a lovely addition to the weekend. They hired wood fire pizza trucks to feed everyone one evening, had a casino night held in the basement, went zorbing in the grounds outside, played golf from the roof and swam in the venues amazing indoor pool during the weekend.
Emmi and Oli chose to have a relaxed countryside wedding at Dodmoor House, with lovely personal touches. Their speeches were spoken outside over champagne and bathed in sunshine, their cake was made by the bride’s sister and they home made their wedding photo booth with a polaroid camera and props. For dinner they chose to have huge paella pans cooking in the courtyard outside and when evening came they opted out of the first dance and instead went for a lovely impromptu start to the evening when the band started to play.
Hannah and Andy decided to throw the rule book out when organising their wedding and got married on a stage. The said their vows in front of all their loved ones and took a standing ovation bow at the end. They both chose for less traditional wedding outfits which fit with both of their characters perfectly. Andy in a tartan blue and green suit from ASOS and Hannah in a custom made wedding gown from Whirling Turban.
Frankie and Ollie had the quintessential English summer wedding at Loseley House with plenty of personal touches thrown in; from the handmade bouquet and floral arrangements made by someone in their church, to Frankie hand writing all of the table settings with calligraphy. They had a bring your own dessert table and their wedding cake was home made by Ollie’s mum. Frankie also gave a speech and instead of speaking aloud her words she had a friend accompany her on the guitar and she sang a song she had written for Ollie.
Charlotte and Anthony picked a place they both loved to get married and travelled to the Lake District. Although it rained all day, it was clear to see the unique touches they had made on their venue. They had decorated the barn with the hundreds of fairy lights, and had sourced all of the spirit bottles in which their flowers sat on their tables, as well as personalising a map for their seating chart. They chose to have an exciting ceilidh band for their evening entertainment and a wheel of cheese wedding cake instead of the traditional sponge!
Bethany and David had a traditional wedding in Essex, however the fabulous Stockbrook Manor has their ceremonies outside [weather permitting] so it almost felt like they were getting married in Australia! A horse and cart came to whisk them away for some couples photographs as a surprise for Bethany's new husband and Bethany’s maid of honour gave a speech along side the groom and father of the bride which gave a nice twist on the orgional formula.
At the end of the day as long as you have got all of the most special people in the world around you, then you cannot really go wrong with planning your day. Times have changed since our grandparent’s and even parents have been married and how you organise your wedding can sometimes be completely different. But the trick is not to worry about what people have done before and if you want to take your vows scuba diving, have an entire wedding cake made out of cookies or use your pet cockatoo as a ring bearer then the fantastic thing is that was your decision. You are designing your wedding to reflect you as a couple. People are unique and so too should your wedding day.
Now this does not mean you have to be completely wacky, it just means that the personal touches you add to your big day are going to be what you remember most. If you are looking for some help places like Pinterest are fantastic for inspiration if you feel like getting a bit crafty with your place settings or room design. Here is a link to my Pinterest for potential brides and grooms to have a look at. If my wedding couples have done it, then so can you, there is light at the end of the metaphorical planning tunnel. Most of all remember to enjoy the planning, and step back on your day to take a look at what you have created and organised, as it will be gone in a flash.